Relationships
The Myth of Spontaneity: Why Planning for Pleasure Works
Hollywood sold us a lie. In the real world, planning for intimacy is the ultimate act of devotion and prioritization.
We’ve all seen the movies: eyes lock across a crowded room, and spontaneous passion ensues. While thrilling in theory, relying on this kind of lightning to strike in a busy, modern relationship is a recipe for a dead bedroom.
Scheduling is Prioritizing Putting intimacy on the calendar doesn't make it a chore; it elevates it to a priority. You schedule meetings with your boss and dinners with your friends. Why wouldn't you dedicate guaranteed time to the most important relationship in your life?
The Build-Up of Anticipation Knowing that Thursday night is "your night" allows you to build anticipation all week. You can prepare mentally and physically. You can ensure you have your products ready and your mind focused.
When you schedule intimacy, you are telling your partner, "You are important enough for me to carve out time exclusively for you."